Today I attended a celebration with my friends. A celebration of a close friend who is going to be wed to her beloved!
The momentous, fun-filled evening which only grew to be wilder and crazier, proved to be an experience of a lifetime. Not that it was extremely outer world-like or eye-opening in any sane way, but it did reinforce some deeper thoughts and emotions that some of us had been struggling to position in priority within our individual minds.
Our friend of a several years, is absolutely in shape for one of the most memorable steps in her life. The early symptoms of the precarious, cold feet have eased out of her mind and the strong-rooted veins of responsibility have been gradually making home in her heart. She, who has mostly , always been level-headed in her ways has found what will just add more strength, texture and color to the warps and woofs of her own life :)) And the feeling that occupies her aura is mostly that of subtle contentment and a deep conviction at multiple levels. Which according to many, can definitely constitute to the raw but stable beginnings of a new marriage!
As the evening progressed into enjoyment, amusement and climaxed into laughter and hearty conversations, we grew more aware of what marriage can substantiate to in many of our lives. What I derived is that marriage can certainly not qualify as a 'destination' and least of all a 'milestone', but rather is just a 'way-point' in your yet to be explored travel itinerary! Well that certainly relaxed my guts a bit on the whole frontier that I had been building up towards marriage.
I mean, if you treat marriage as a way-point in your life's travels, you can most assuredly give up the fears that accompany the feeling of it being an end destination or boundary stop, no? "End of bachelorhood", "Game-over", "An overload of responsibilities" ,,, Most of these notorious adages would then sound like a faint rattling in the distance. Once your vehicle makes through this way-point, you just enter into a usual world of more way-points, some more ordinary milestones and maybe some extra-ordinary en-route destinations. Nothing that you wouldn't pass otherwise, it's just a slightly different path you would traverse due to the presence and influence of a whole different set of people (& forces) in the journey of your life.
As we descended the high (fun) point of the evening into some of these deeper emotional exchanges, we eased into a comfortable territory of enlightened awareness. It made me ponder on just how much of what we exactly wanted. I derived the answers to some of my own questions and we bid goodbye with a pocketful of some thought-provoking take-aways :)
The evening was a great mix of lighthearted fun and deep-rooted conversational exchanges with a high dosage of emotional bonding among friends!
And to my soon to be wedded friends, Cheers to a lifetime of excitement and discovery .. as you grow older together with each other!! You guys are right, "The best is still to come" :))
